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Rick Roth's avatar

Thanks for showing us the way to be in this world, honest and kind where it is called for. Your writing about your friend David was exemplary. and thanks for showing us the way in this world by honestly calling out a-holes like Thom Brennaman and the A's owners.

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Lovely tribute to David and thank you for sharing it with us. It's a perfect and beautifully moving reminder of the old truth that there really is no such thing as an "ordinary" life when we consider the extraordinary ways in which each of us - for good and for bad - are destined to touch the lives of those around us.

It also reminds us that however much we crave the simple satisfaction of a "happy ever after" resolution, life with all its messiness and fragility does not always comply with providing the easy linear narratives we want. Sometimes things don't get better. Or if they do, time just damn runs out before anything can be done with it. Sometimes what looked like a safe harbour is just a temporary stop before even worse storms.

And that can all feel pretty shitty for those who have to watch the story unfurl and who just wish everything could be ok again and beautiful like it used to be, when - as one of my favourite Cohen songs go - "When the victims are singing

And the laws of remorse are restored....When the day has been ransomed

And the night has no right to begin...when I am clean and I am sober...."

But of course if that were all there was then we would all descend into terminal despair. It's the fact that there is always hope and that people are as I said, capable of the most extraordinary goodness as much as bad, that even if tomorrow is going down the pan, all we have is today and its precious allotment of time for us to spend on whatever heroic adventure (however mundane it may appear to others) that life is giving us.

And I use that word "heroic" intentionally. We are called to be heroes and although we may not have dragons to vanquish any more, this world still has plenty of monsters for us to fight. Both externally and indeed as many will note on reading David's story, we know many monsters within our hearts and minds.

And clearly David was one of the heroes in your life Craig and it's good to celebrate not only what he did but the important role that you played within his all too short quest. For what is a knight without his merry band of men and women to help and support him as his faithful posse?

Anyway! That was a far too long an answer as usual and not sure what I ended up trying to say! But that notwithstanding, suffice to say I send my deepest condolences to you and all of David's loved ones. Perpetual light shine upon him and may he rest in peace!

Charlie

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